A year and a half in, and things
look pretty much the same. It’s been awhile since my last update, mostly just
because things have been so NORMAL that I haven’t felt that I had anything
compelling to write. But then I realize that my “normal” isn’t actually normal,
so here I am again. In my last entry, I talked about attending a Malagasy
savatra, or circumcision party. After that, I headed off to Tana for my Peace
Corps Mid-Service Conference. It was a great time catching up with my old Peace
Corps friends, and refocusing a bit on the Peace Corps goals. Then I rushed
back down to the South for my second cultural education in as many weeks…a
wedding! And who doesn’t love a wedding?!
In this case, the bride was my
friend and fellow Peace Corps volunteer Jess, who married her longtime
boyfriend Haja. We ventured out to a small village called Faux Cap, about 170km
west of Fort Dauphin. Naturally, the drive took the better part of 10 hours.
But it was worth it. Faux Cap is situated on the 2nd most southern
tip of the island and is probably the most beautiful and isolated place I have
ever been. Jess and Haja had a traditional Antandroy wedding that we all were
honored to participate in. Probably the most unusual part of the whole
ceremony, besides the fact that the bride is basically bargained off by her
father to the groom’s family, was when the groom had to refuse each of the
bride’s sisters. It reminded me of Goldilocks and the Three Bears…each of us
“sisters” was presented, and Haja refused each of us in turn. “No, not her,
she’s too tall.” “No, not her, she is far too short.” “No, not her, she talks
to much.” (Guess which one was mine!) Finally, Jess came into the room, to
which Haja exclaimed “Yes, that one, she’s the one!” This whole exchange kept
the entire room in gales of laughter, and was only slightly demeaning to us
lowly bridesmaids. The ceremony was complete when we carried all of the bride’s
possessions to the groom’s house, where we had a big meal and a party to
celebrate. I was struck by the simplicity of the ceremony and the joy with
which each part of it is carried out. Haja’s family welcomed us Peace Corps
volunteers like we were Jess’s actual family, and put so much care and
happiness into even the smallest detail of the event. From our hair and makeup,
to the way we carried Jess’s belongings back to Haja’s house (on our heads of
course!), his family instructed us on it all. The wedding was so fun and I feel
so special to have been a part of it.
After a week of hanging out on the
beach post-wedding, I headed back to Mahatalaky. Things here were and still are
very normal. So what’s this “normal”?? I get up every day to the sounds of kids
playing and roosters crowing and go to sleep every night not too long after the
sun goes down. I work a few days a week at the health clinic teaching women
about prenatal care and malaria and helping the nurse in whatever ways I can.
On my off days, I hang out. I read, I make collages, I go for bike rides, I
paint my nails, and sometimes I just sit and think. I eat a lot of rice and
speak a lot of Malagasy. I get excited about fruit seasons. I both plan ahead
(in my brain its already February 2013) and look back at what’s already passed
(how has it already been 16 months??). I still learn a lot almost every day. That’s
what my normal is here. Sometimes it’s boring and I feel like there’s nothing
to do, and then sometimes it’s crazy and I wish that it would just even out!
Madagascar is constantly throwing me for a loop, and although I had hoped that
after this long I would be better equipped to handle it, I’ve learned that
sometimes things just are the way they are. I feel so content and settled here
that my whole perception of “normal” changed. Someone crashed a moped into my
hut? Normal. Five frogs are hopping around inside my house during a rainstorm?
Normal. A woman gives birth across the hall from where I work at the health
center and is so quiet I don’t even notice? Normal. I haven’t washed my hair in
a week? Oops, normal. Even all the animals are normal now, but I still hate
them. I’m not really sure when things stopped feeling new and just started
feeling regular, but it happened, and I like it, although it does make me
question my ability to ever assimilate back into the Western world. So that’s
why, in a nutshell, I didn’t really feel like I had anything to blog about. I’m
working on a new malaria education and prevention initiative in Mahatalaky that
I’m really excited about, but the details are still a little in the works so
I’ll hold off on introducing it. Let’s just say for now that PHELT has been
reincarnated and my dream lives on! Now here’s to hoping that ‘STRIKES’ don’t
become a “new normal” in 2013, haha!
One thing that is trying to become
“normal,” but I refuse to allow to, is persistent rain. This time last year, I
was sweating it out in the most tropical climate I had ever experienced. This
year, I am still in leggings and most days the sun doesn’t even come out! It’s
like an infinite rain cloud settled over Mahatalaky and refuses to go away. A
month ago, a steady 3-day downpour washed out the road and almost prevented me
from attending my good friend’s going away party. Yesterday, I soaked through
my hand-me-down raincoat running the five-minute’s distance between my house
and the church. You heard it here first, global warming is real and it is
happening! So without further ado, here are my top five reasons why I hate the
rain:
1.
In America, when it rains you curl up with a cup
of hot cocoa and your favorite movie, and relish the excuse to stay inside. In
Madagascar, you actually can’t leave the house, even if you wanted to. The
movie option is out too, due to lack of electricity. So basically a persistent
rain leaves you with a couple options: the first, stay inside and read. I
already do that all the time. The second, stay inside and stare outside wishing
that the rain would stop. That’s usually what I do: sit in my doorway and stare
forlornly outside and dream of last year when I spent every day wishing it
would be just a little bit cooler. Remind me of this post in a few months when
I write a “Top 5 Reasons I Hate the Sun” post.
2.
Rain disrupts everything. School, work,
transportation, cell phone service. The kids have nothing to do, so they come
bother me. They just stand in the door and stare, or they try and scare me. The
latter is the worst, because oftentimes they are successful and then I am
really embarrassed.
3.
The road gets washed out and then no one can
come or go. Namely, me. I hate the feeling of being trapped somewhere and when
the roads gets washed out I am reminded of how rurally I live. The worst part
is when it stops raining because the bad weather has actually made a terrible
road more terrible. Oh Mother Nature, you fickle being.
4.
Persistent rain or drizzle means getting used to
constantly feeling a bit damp. My clean clothes are damp, my dirty clothes are
damp, my blankets are damp, even my hair is damp. You might as well just forget
doing laundry, because it will never dry. So its just weeks of wearing semi-damp,
semi-dirty clothes day in and day out.
5.
When you move to an island, you have certain
expectations. Those expectations usually include beaches, sun, ocean, and
surfing. I am lucky enough to hit three out of four (I still haven’t miraculously
developed an ability to surf), but I can’t enjoy any of them when it rains all
day and I have to content myself with sitting inside. Rain, rain go away, come
again some other day, little Moni wants to play!
And that just about wraps it up. I wish everyone in the U.S.
a happy and healthy Thanksgiving. If all goes according to my plan, I will be
baking my first ever turkey all on my own! That will probably deserve a blog
post, let’s be real. Here’s to hoping I don’t burn anything down! Bisous from
Madagascar.